If you’ve been following along long enough, I pray you can read the genuine spirit from which I write these words. I mean it with all sincerity when I say I wish we could sit across from one another and have heart to heart conversations. So, grab a cup of coffee, or your preferred drink, and get comfortable- you and I are having some coffee + conversation- for real. Ready?
It’s raining right now, and the sound of the rain against the roof is my favorite. How about you? I should be going to bed because I already know it’s going to be a long week, but I can’t help it. I looked at the calendar, reminded my mom that if she wanted to post a Valentine’s Day blog it was due on Wednesday, and then I sat down with a cup of tea and my favorite blanket to write to you.
The truth is, I had been planning on announcing this new part of the blog an entirely different way, but the rain gave me an idea.
Why not have Coffee + Conversation be introduced while I’m bundled up on the couch, in yoga pants and messy hair, thinking about the very topic that girls tend to talk about a lot- L O V E.
So, this will be a little vulnerable, maybe a little too much of my heart on my sleeve, but you know what? That’s exactly what I want this to be, because I want this to be a conversation between friends.
A little secret? This actually isn’t one of my favorite topics. But it’s because it’s not my favorite that I actually wanted to talk about it- and the fact that Valentine’s Day is right around the corner kind of cinched it together.
Most of the people I know are in relationships. And while I’m all for having a Galentine’s party- being in the middle of the week, makes it a bit hard.
So, my night will consist of watching the cheesy Hallmark movies- that I will unashamedly admit are my favorite. Probably a bowl of pasta because it’s my comfort food and very possibly my journal.
As much as I’d like to say that I am 100% okay with it- the truth is that sometimes, I’m not. And while I love keeping these topics broad to speak to anyone who happens to stumble across this little blog of mine, today I’m talking to the girl with valentine’s day plans that look a little, or a lot, like mine.
I’m not going to sit here and tell you to just hang on, one day you’ll get everything you’re waiting for. I’m not going to say that it’s going to happen when you least expect it. I’m not even going to tell you to let Jesus be your valentine. I’m not going to go through the cliches that everyone with good intentions has already said- because let’s be honest- I’m tired of hearing them so I’m sure you are too.
Instead, I want to invite you to be not okay. I wanted to let you know that it’s okay to not be thrilled about this day. It’s okay to be a little hurt and frustrated. It’s okay to roll your eyes at all the valentine’s day posts or avoid social media altogether.
It’s okay- and I know it’s okay because I’ve done it at one time or another, so we can do it together.
Every once in a while, a little pity party is totally justified. But just for a while, and always with someone who will bring you out of it. Because while it’s okay to be disappointed at another holiday that goes by without a plus one, we can’t live in that disappointment.
And while I want you to feel free to let me know how not okay you are, there was something else that was placed on my heart and if you’ll let me, I’ll be the one to get you out of the pity party this time:
“Be still, and know…”
The end of that verse is always left off, ever realize that?
Be still and know- what exactly?
Well, the end of the verse is to know “that I am God“; and I could go on and list about a hundred things we could be still and know about.
But for the past couple weeks, this is what He’s been whispering to my heart- and not just for me, but for YOU too.
Be still and know that:
You are loved.
You are cherished.
You are amazing.
You are beautiful.
You are special.
You are someone worthy of someone.
You are Mine.
When we know that, our pity party just doesn’t seem so right does it? I feel the same way.
Well, the rain’s stopped for a moment. My tea is gone. And my heart, well my heart is glad that we spent a few minutes talking about this. Because, to be completely honest, I was finding myself drowning in a little bit of sorrow and bracing myself for the never ending sappy Instagram posts. A little heart to heart and coffee + conversation is good for my soul. I’m praying you found that out too.
But this wouldn’t be a conversation if I didn’t give YOU the chance to chime in- so, please please PLEASE 🙂 add to the list of what God’s been whispering for you to Be still and know. I would LOVE to read them. I would also love to pray for your heart, so you can let me know what you’re going through too! And if you need to sit down and journal just for your own heart- do that too. Whatever it takes, sweet friend, just know I’m here.
Oh! One last thing before we finish our conversation,
Jesus died knowing you might never love Him back. That my friends, is true love- no one person on Valentine’s Day can top it. So, be still and know that. <3