I originally wanted to write 24 things that I’ve learned in the past 24 years. But one week, turned into two, which turned into three. now here we are 24 days since turning 24 and I’ve learned a lot.
So instead of 24 things I’ve learned over the past 24 years, here are 24 things I’ve learned in the past 24 days. My goodness what a roller coaster! Ready?
24- I don’t feel much different. Yes I know, it’s not like I turned a quarter of a century; turning 24 isn’t really a newsworthy age, but for me, it’s always been a bit of a goal setter. “By 24…” started the majority of my heart writings, but I still feel exactly the same!
23- Thinking positively really does change the way you live. Any time a positive thought came to mind, I wrote it down. I saved them all, and within the past 24 days, I have a really nice stack of them. The best part is that I noticed a difference in my days. Instead of being frustrated, my focus would shift to the positive encouragement.
22- God loves me anyway. I could tell you that I spent every morning of these past 24 days waking up and digging into my Bible, growing closer and closer to Him, but I’ve been struggling the past 24 days fighting. In my heart I know that these past 24 days could have gone a lot smoother if I would have just fought my desire to hit the snooze button and spend the morning with Him, but He loves me regardless.
21- He uses me. To touch people’s hearts, to answer their prayers, to show others that God is listening to them. And it completely amazes me that He chooses to use me and my heart has been so incredibly encouraged.
20- I will be okay. With so much changing in my life, I have to fight the fear that I’m not going to get through it in one piece. But the thing that I’m finding is that I will be okay no matter the change.
19- Change is good. It doesn’t always feel that way, but when you are continually open for God to work in your life, you can ALWAYS expect that the change will be for our GOOD and not harm. I mean, Jeremiah 29:11 anybody? 😉
18- People can surprise you. Whether it’s a good surprise or a bad surprise, people who you’ve known forever can always surprise you. And though most of the surprises have been good, those bad have left me struggling to find my footing.
17- I don’t have to have everything figured out. While I’ve confessed that I’ve been struggling with surprises, I may as well admit that I truly do not have it together. And I slowly realize that that is very okay.
16- Friendships change. It doesn’t mean you love them any less- or that they love you any less- it only means that you learn to love them differently. Life happens, friends move, get married, have kids, and you have to learn to adapt to the changes.
15- I can surprise myself. Those things you never in a million years would have imagined yourself roped into doing, you’re doing them. Unintentionally for sure, but it’s still surprising to find myself in the middle of them.
14- Heartbreak doesn’t kill you. At the moment, I’m not sure how long it takes to make you stronger, but I know for sure it doesn’t kill you. And that in itself gives hope.
13- I’m not the same. Yes, I don’t feel any different, but I’m still not the same person I used to be last year or the last five years, and although it’s terrifying at times, if I was the same person, that would be scarier.
12- Growing pains still suck. And I wish there was a word between they completely suck and they are unbearable. Because the truth is, they’re not fun and they usually hurt like hell, but the knowledge that they will reveal something so much bigger and better makes them a little bearable.
11- Knowledge really is power. Being able to answer without hesitating or being unsure has given a newfound confidence, and I could really get used to having this power. Besides, I promise to use it for good… 😉
10- Letting go doesn’t get easier. At least right now it doesn’t. I don’t know if that’s something time and experience will help with, or if it’s simply something that as I writer I struggle with in letting go of circumstances, but it is still just as difficult.
09- Forgiveness heals. Strange, and perhaps unbelievable, but forgiving is easier than hanging onto anger and hurt, and the moment forgiveness occurs, there is a weight lifted. I’m serious, you should try it!
08- Forgiving and forgetting are two entirely different things. That old cliche, “forgive and forget”? Not so wise after all. And this isn’t necessarily something I’ve learned simply in 24 days, but realized was 100% completely true these past days. You can forgive and extend a second chance, but if you forget the past, you’re doomed to repeat it.
07- Being honest hurts. Not that I’ve been going around lying to other people, but more of not being honest with myself and God. I’ve been walking around pretending as though I don’t want certain things, or don’t care when in all reality, I do. And even in the honesty just between me and Him, it hurts.
06- Being transparent is not always worth it. Yes, people appreciate it most of the time, but so far all I’m finding is being transparent won’t necessarily accomplish what you hope it will.
05- Family is everything. Literally. Their opinions, their advice, their wisdom, their love, their support- it all means a lot. Even when we think we want to do it on our own, whether or not we ask for their two cents, family still means everything.
04- Love where you’re at. So maybe this is one I’m still learning, but I definitely have been forced to put it into practice more and more in the past 24 days. I’ll keep you posted on how that goes!
03- Shoot first, figure it out later. Maybe I’ll learn a better way of doing this- actually, I hope I’ll learn a better way, but for now, this did the trick in getting me to go for something with everything I’ve got.
02- The outcome may be worth the risk. And it may not. But you’ll never know unless you try, and you’ll never learn unless you take that chance.
01- Giving up isn’t an option. I’ve wanted to, tried to, said I was going to- but every single time I start to head there, God stopped me. He’s not letting me give up. It’s not an option. And when I took it off the table, things became a little clearer.